tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6346880717655912779.post6640447506063776498..comments2016-12-20T23:31:04.496-05:00Comments on Flimsy Rationales: Ray's Romper Room - "Helicopter Parenting" versus "Slow Parenting"Ray R.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00816558221155415778noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6346880717655912779.post-17044162298020727342009-12-10T13:01:21.365-05:002009-12-10T13:01:21.365-05:00Oh, I dread the teenage years like The Black Plagu...Oh, I dread the teenage years like The Black Plague.Ray R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00816558221155415778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6346880717655912779.post-53486347032031805002009-12-10T00:41:45.746-05:002009-12-10T00:41:45.746-05:00You deserve the same respect that they give to the...You deserve the same respect that they give to their mother. Create ground rules and stick to them. Start with small things. My children had the bad habit of eating in the bedroom. One day, I told them that we would eat dinner in the dining room from that day forward. No ifs, ands, or buts. Immediately after dinner, any leftovers were put away and plates were placed in the sink. Everyone had to help. It's a simple, family-oriented routine.<br /><br />We, the weekend parents, have a tendency to let things slide at times. If you set rules one weekend, but give in the next, it will make things all the more difficult. And it only gets worse when they become teenagers. <br /><br />cheers.Dannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6346880717655912779.post-87755091236404012932009-12-09T17:01:30.264-05:002009-12-09T17:01:30.264-05:00Hey Dan:
Many thanks for writing, and thanks for ...Hey Dan:<br /><br />Many thanks for writing, and thanks for sharing your situation. I've been divorced for about four years now, and my situation has mirrored yours from the beginning. I'm working to set more ground rules, because the early leniency is leading to problems. My ten-year old daughter sometimes expects me to play maid and gets petulant and puffy when asked to do things like just put her own clothes in the hamper and dishes in the sink. I'm having to cut off TV time and Nintendo time in order to reinforce boundaries and encourage personal responsibility. But it's a continual learning process, one improved by communications with others in similar circumstances. Hope you'll keep reading and commenting.<br /><br />RRay R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00816558221155415778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6346880717655912779.post-41609511345101182382009-12-09T16:27:25.440-05:002009-12-09T16:27:25.440-05:00Great blog and topic. stumbled upon a few days ago...Great blog and topic. stumbled upon a few days ago. Divorced dad of two teenagers. They were young when we split.<br /><br />My two cents:<br /><br />When I first became divorced, I overcompensated with leniency and let my children do as they please, partially to spite the ex. It worked out just fine until aspects of my personal life began to change. Now, if I had to do it over again, I would still be lenient and allow them unstructured play, but I would set some basic ground rules. My vote is for the middle-ground approach.<br /><br />cheers.Dannoreply@blogger.com